My
mother’s doctor called and told me that she needed surgery right away. He explained, in layman’s terms, that she had
an opening in her stomach which needed to be repaired.
He
said: “She will die without the
operation.” After recovering from the
shock of his blunt message, I said, “Of course, do whatever you need to
do.” “But…”, he said, “...there’s a good
chance she may not make it through the operation or may die in recovery.” He continued:
“Anyway, are you sure you want to put an 88 year old woman with Alzheimer’s
through this? Even if she lives through it, she could wind up on a respirator
or bedridden for the rest of her life.”
My
mind was reeling: “What was he saying?
He’s talking like my mom is a sick, aged dog.”
I was dumbfounded. But after a
few moments, I realized that he was raising an honest, albeit crass, question
about my mother's quality of life.
Prior
to this moment, I always imagined that such questions would be
straightforward. Surely, knowing my
mother, if she were in a hopeless, vegetative state or in perpetual pain, I
could have more easily decided to forego the operation. But this was so very different. Who can say what she would choose, if she
were able?
As
I struggled, I recalled a day, about 55 years ago, when a five year old boy,
fearing a bunch of scary medical tests, hid in his bedroom. My mother came in and said, “It’s time to go. But
don’t worry, everything will be fine.”
After
a full recovery from the operation, my mother continues to live in her imaginary
world, oblivious to her own ordeal. I
think I made the right decision.
© lumdog 2013
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I
wrote this for the Week 68 Trifecta Writing Challenge where we are to write
33-333 words using the word “time” in the context of an appointed fixed moment
or an opportune or suitable moment.
Your comments are appreciated.