My daughter, Grace, is a junior at a university in New York City, majoring in Theater. She invited me to see a play which the students had written and in which they would perform. She felt the need to prepare me for what I would see, so she said: “Just so you know, the play’s got some porn in it.” She quickly added, “The porn is in film clips.”
I was a surprised by my reaction to this bit of news; I was actually relieved that that the porn would be on film and not performed live, especially, not by my daughter. So, with great anticipation about what I might be seeing, I walked to the theater, having been fortified by two Manhattans.
The play opened with a young man, about twenty years old, speaking a monologue. He was describing historic events over the last thirty years or so.
After the narrator set the scene, two students appeared as Ronald and Nancy Reagan. (I’ve already confessed to my daughter that I didn’t entirely follow the plot, especially after the Manhattans, and she, graciously, acknowledged that the script was still a work in progress).
At this point in the play, while Ron and Nancy were chatting, a young woman began simulating masturbation and licking her fingers and slapping herself in the face. Of course, this was unusual, but not entirely unexpected. But that was because I was already knew about the porn.
And, yes, the porn was explicit. Thankfully, it was the typical, one on one stuff, with no major kinky action. I was, sort of, proud of myself for being cool about this.
After the play, Grace was a little apprehensive about my reaction. So, I guessed she wanted some assurances. And being the dad that I am, trying to be cool, with my lame jokes, I offered: “Yeah, I was cool with the porn. It seemed a little tame to me!” Grace gave a nervous laugh and we changed the subject.
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I wrote this for the the Trifecta Week 55 Writing Challenge where we are required to write a 33-333 word composition using the word "anticipation" in the context of a visualization of a future event.
Your comments are appreciated.
There is really no non-awkward response in that situation, is there? But you made it through!
ReplyDeleteYou are right about that! Thanks Annabelle.
DeleteTwo Manhattans in NYC! Love your response to your daughter.
ReplyDeleteThe only drink in NYC! Yeah, I use humor in those situations. Thanks Kelly.
DeleteHaving been warned about the porn certainly gives definition to anticipation. Great story for the prompt. What's also great is that your daughter felt assured enough to invite you. That's a nice relationship.
ReplyDeleteYeah, there was a lot of anticipation and apprehension but it was better to be forewarned. Thank you for saying that about the relationship because I hadn't really thought of it that way, but you are right. We were always very open with the kids and as nervous as I was, I would never have shown disapproval, especially in the context of art. Thanks for your comments Stephanie.
DeleteThat would be nervous anticipation in my case if I knew that ahead of time. Saying there is "porn" in it is a sweeping statement...could be anything, right? I think you handled it fantastically and having 2 Manhattans under your belt certainly helps. I really like your comment above about not showing disapproval "especially in the context of art". I agree with that although I still would have been squirming in my seat.
ReplyDeleteIt made for a fantastic story however and you told it with such a clip that it was funnier even. Great job!
Yes, there was nervousness and squirming for me. But I have a lot of confidence in her and I somehow knew it would be ok. I'm sure some people wouldn't condone this in any context but she is an adult and very much her own person. I am very proud of her and her talent. I'm glad you saw the humor. I was afraid it didn't come through. Thanks for all your kind words Gina.
DeleteWell, hey. If the time comes, I know which drink goes with porn. Brave of you, lumdog!
DeleteYou never know when knowing that will come in handy ;). Just like me, total surprise. And the Manhattans helped with the bravery! Thanks for commenting kymm
DeleteI think I'd need a drink or several to get through such a play (if I could even get the nerve to go!) I cracked up at your response to your daughter, and her reaction to it :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Janna.
Deletegood reaction! I might have been left more speechless:)
ReplyDeleteThank you Sandra. Humor is always my response in these situations.
DeleteThat is so exactly how my father would react that for a moment I got a shiver. Better to have lame dad jokes then say nothing at all!
ReplyDeleteThank you Jennifer. Saying nothing would never be an option for me.
DeleteYour anticipation is what leads to my anticipation LOL! Good job!
ReplyDeleteThank you Tessa.
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ReplyDeleteI think no matter how far into adulthood our children are, there will always be topics of discussion that make us all uncomfortable. You handled it well.
ReplyDeleteI think that is very true. Thanks for your comment Tara.
DeleteWell she was nice to warn you (:
ReplyDeleteSuch a brave dad! And I hope your daughter does well in her theater endeavors.
Thanks Draug.
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